Reciprocity, mawfuggahs, comprende?

I don't understand why so many in this thing of ours are so out of touch with reality as far as relationships go.

D-type runs off a laundry list of what they want. They declare that they'll give the s-type what the fuck they want to, when they want to and if they think it's necessary. There's this undercurrent that if serving doesn't include healthy doses of abject misery, misery you better gawddamn well be grateful for, you just ain't doing it right. Don't get me wrong here, I loves me some misery, but I want to be happy and mostly eager to be miserable, even when I'm really fucking miserable.

S-type runs off a laundry list of dreams and promises. She thinks abject misery is motherfuckingyum and dives right in. Then, you see posts like, My D-type just starves me emotionally or physically or sexually, all he does is treat me like a maid, a toy, interchangeable, or combination thereof. Ad nauseum.

Why is it so hard to recognize that the imbalance of power should make for a balance in the relationship? You can't go into this thing when one half expects too much and the other half doesn't expect enough.

Reciprocity, mawfuggahs, comprende?

You want a bitch to do all that nasty, dirty, degrading shit that makes you cum like nobody's business? You want a bitch to follow you off the end of the cliff? Have your back when no one else does AND be a punching bag if you need it? Give her what she needs. Don't confuse this with wants. Needs. All women have them. For some it's attention, cuddling, please and thank you, putting the toilet seat down, etc. etc. etc...Nuance matters. The little shit does count.

Whatever her buttons are, push them, often. The more you fill her needs, the lower to her knees she will go for you. The more you give her what no one else has, those things she's always ached for, the deeper down the rabbit hole you can take her. Make yourself irreplaceable and the world is yours. Show her there really is no place better than at your feet and do it well enough she'll be grateful to be there. Some might call it topping from the bottom. Some might infer satin pillows. I call it some damn good stealth seduction by a really smart D-type, because that kind of receiving is an addictive gawddamn drug and he's the only dope man.

This, in my opinion, is the core that holds D/s together, even when the D/s slacks or ramps up. That core makes the rest flow. Hell, it's the core that holds all relationships together and yeah, D/s is a relationship.

You want it? You can have it, just be prepared to give as good as you get.